I am afraid of boys.....
This is going to be a short entry because I have a bad headache and so thinking is just not working for me today. I just hope that I am better by 3:00 when I am suppossed to FINALLY go and see the Chronicles of Narnia. My boss and his family are just so great to me. They invited me to go see if with them and their visiting children and then come over for dinner, just so I could have some "family time", they are so great to me. They know that I have a hard time adjusting back to New Orleans after being at in Florida or visiting friends. The lonely birds certainly do start circling again, so they make sure that I come over and hang out with them and they remind me why God has me here. They are such a blessing to me.
Anyways so I titled today's blog, "I am afraid of boys". This is my title because I realizing how much lately I have a fear of not being able to relate to middle and high school boys. I mean I like sports and all, but I dont understand what goes on in their heads. I mean I dont even really understand boys my own age, so how do I understand younger ones. More importantly how do I relate with them and build relationships with them. Do books like "Every Young Man's Battle" really ring true or are they just another cheesy, not very practical christian book like "Why I Kissed Dating Goodbye". I mean that book has good points but it creates such a small, world view of dating, does Every Young Man's Battle do that for what young men are going through?
I know that I need to lean more on my male volunteer leaders but at the same time I dont want to not build some sort of relationshship with the boys because of my own fear of rejection due to not being able to relate with them. And as I just typed that is came to me is this a fear of not relating or just a fear of rejection. It is scary how your own personal fears come up in different aspects of your life. I have a fear of being rejecting in relationships, and that has even come up in my ministry with youth. Why in the world do I have a fear of being rejected by middle and high schoolers?
Anyways so I titled today's blog, "I am afraid of boys". This is my title because I realizing how much lately I have a fear of not being able to relate to middle and high school boys. I mean I like sports and all, but I dont understand what goes on in their heads. I mean I dont even really understand boys my own age, so how do I understand younger ones. More importantly how do I relate with them and build relationships with them. Do books like "Every Young Man's Battle" really ring true or are they just another cheesy, not very practical christian book like "Why I Kissed Dating Goodbye". I mean that book has good points but it creates such a small, world view of dating, does Every Young Man's Battle do that for what young men are going through?
I know that I need to lean more on my male volunteer leaders but at the same time I dont want to not build some sort of relationshship with the boys because of my own fear of rejection due to not being able to relate with them. And as I just typed that is came to me is this a fear of not relating or just a fear of rejection. It is scary how your own personal fears come up in different aspects of your life. I have a fear of being rejecting in relationships, and that has even come up in my ministry with youth. Why in the world do I have a fear of being rejected by middle and high schoolers?
posted by khwilly at 11:03 AM
2 Comments:
In case my input is helpful at all, I have yet to come across a high school student who doesn't struggle or at least think about the issues in "Every Young Man's Battle." It seems to usually start somewhere around middle school when puberty really starts to kick in and the questions and self-discovery goes from there.
Oh the joys of boys....Katie, we will never fully understand a women. But we can do our best to learn...It's not fun, it's not cool, it's quite alien to us (most of the time). I am so impressed that you would even consider thinking about this because it's not an easy thing to talk about or think about. Unfortunately, it's my passion, so any questions...bring it on! I don't have all of the answers, but we can figure them out together if possible. I love you girl!
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